Dylan has always been a girly girl. She likes to wear her hair down and insists on keeping it long. She loves wearing nail polish and makeup. She somehow manages to find the highest heels available in a size 13 anytime we go to Target. She likes girl stuff.
However, her best friend doesn't. Her best friend loves the colors green and blue. She doesn't like skirts. She mostly wears sneakers. And now Dylan is insisting on doing the same thing. And it is driving me batty.
It's not that I need Dylan to be girly. I truly don't. I just want her to be herself. And it scares me that she is altering her personal style (which has always been a huge deal to her) to suit someone else. But, short of forbidding her to wear sweatpants (which seems silly), i don't know what to do.
We tell her that she can wear whatever she likes. That she doesn't have to dress to please someone else. That she doesn't have to respond to the teasing that she looks "girly girl."
It falls on deaf ears. And we end up with tantrums. As I told Julie earlier in an email, we actually had to go out and buy Dylan some new shorts and capris last night because she was choosing to raid her dirty clothes hamper in lieu of wearing the perfectly clean and lovely (girly girl) clothes in her closet. She actually came downstairs yesterday morning wearing a pair of turquoise sweat pants that were covered in stains.