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Wednesday, April 30, 2008

I am indeed a full-time mother, and yes, my daughter does watch Hannah Montana

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Sorry for the long post, but I'm feeling very up in arms lately, and I just need to vent.

First, let me state this. I am ALWAYS AND FOREVER a mother to my children. When I am at work? Still a mother. When I'm out on a date with my husband? Still a mother. Even when I leave next weekend for my women's only trip to Santa Barbara wine country, I will STILL BE A MOTHER. I am thrilled that there are moms who choose to stay home with their kids. I am not one of those moms. I love coming to work everyday. It's part of who I am. It doesn't make me any less of a mother though. I have been seeing an increasing number of bloggers lately (stay at home moms) who refer to themselves as full-time moms. This offends me to my core. I don't support the Mommy Wars. I do not want to start an online brawl about this. I simply want to state that wording like this is offensive and hurtful. It hurts my feelings.

OK, second! This post makes me want to scream. My daughter is six-years-old and yes, she loves and watches Hannah Montana. I resent the implication that I am raising a slut. Here's an excerpt of what Rachel Campos Duffy has to say in her piece:

My oldest daughter is eight years old and High School Musical, Hannah Montana and the like are not permitted in my house. I don't want my girls emulating a teenager in a micro-miniskirt and thigh high stockings - I don't care how benign the bubble gum pop songs are. Moms like me are called a lot of things - controlling, prudes, and helicopter moms. Why? Because we'd rather our girls aspire to be astronauts or veterinarians rather than gyrating wanna-be "rock stars"?

OK, first of all, Hannah Montana doesn't dress that way. She is always modestly covered, and even ends up looking ridiculous half the time because she has t-shirts on under a spaghetti strap dress. Second, I want my daughter to aspire to be ANYTHING SHE WANTS. Right now, Dylan's greatest joy comes from music. Every day features multiple dance parties in our house, and she and I have spent a lot of time together creating a "kids mix" on iTunes. She wants to listen to it all the time, and she frequently sings along on her microphone set (greatest Christmas gift ever - thanks Moppy!)

So, you know what, Rachel Campos Duffy? I will let my daughter watch Hannah Montana and High School Musical, because those shows make her want to get up and dance. And then I will get up and dance and sing right along with her, hoping that when she grows up she'll be anything she damn well pleases.


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